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When I’m lazy to cook I just usually serve fried meals. I can never go wrong with tocilog. I just buy a pack of Pampanga’s Best Tocino at the nearby market. One pack costs about P45.
It’s so easy to cook. Unlike the tocinos back then that you need to simmer in water, this you can fry directly. You know it’s cooked when the sugar starts to caramelize. Serve with egg and of course, fried rice and you already have a full meal. Our family loves this.
Now that we have our son enrolled to a Home School program, we experienced first hand the advantages of studying in the comfort of our own home. And it got me thinking, maybe I should check the various online universities available and study at home myself! With the many options – I can get additional skills that I need. I specially would love to learn more about website programming and design, or internet marketing and SEO! This is really something that I should seriously consider.
He keeps me busy day and night. I swear I have never carried my first born this much. He wakes up immediately after I put him down on the bed so the result – I have to carry him the whole time. Nevertheless, I have never had a more fulfilling job than this. It’s such a long time since we had a baby in the house that I honestly forgot how having a baby is such a blessing. All of us loves him so much and most especially his kuya. If there’s one advantage of them having such a big age gap it’s that I don’t have to worry about kuya being jealous. He’s already 2 months in this picture and we can already hold a conversation. LOL!
If there’s one thing that occupies my mind these days it is the thought of giving birth. I don’t know how I did it the first time but now I am more nervous than ever. In an effort to calm myself and focus on the positive side of things I told my husband to make sure he buys all the food I missed eating during my pregnancy including pizza and lots and lots of chocolates. Still, I can’t help but worry about it day and night. Maybe I should ask him to buy me a nice lingerie too just so I could look forward to having my old body back. Anyway, I just have to double my prayers so I can have the strength I need. I’m sure everything will be alright with the help of our Lord.
In a month’s time, I’m going to give birth. My midwife has already warned me to stop eating sweets since I would be having a difficult time giving birth if I have a big baby. That is why I’m really trying hard in controlling my food intake. I love sweets and I admit to indulge on it even though I’m pregnant. Now I’m really worried so I’m completely stopping myself from eating sweets.
One more thing I’m worried about is how to lose stubborn belly fat after I gave birth. I wasn’t able to do it after I gave birth to my first baby five years ago and now that I am older, I’m afraid I would be having more difficulty in removing the excess belly fat. I really don’t know how other mothers could give one, two, or even four times and still have the same body they had before. If only I was like them then I wouldn’t have this problem.
I can’t believe it! I have exhausted my all my tasks. So now I have nothing to do – oh that’s not accurate at all. I still have tons to do but those can wait. So just to celebrate I will be having my day off today. I won’t be doing anything blog related for the whole day and that’s a promise!
Okay, so what does a work-at-home mom do when she doesn’t have work? Well, spend quality time with her kids, of course. So today we will play the whole day and watch television and eat to our heart’s content. This is a time to celebrate and I’m happy I can just take the day off just like that.
I love that I have a flexible schedule. I don’t have any deadlines to beat everyday anymore. I need this flexibility in my schedule in order to make sure I can still take care of my family’s needs.
I have devised an informal schedule. It works most of the time but sometimes it doesn’t but I’m satisfied with it. It works well for me and my son and for my husband too.
My schedule goes like this. I wake up early at about 5 am, early enough to be able to see my husband off to work. Once he leaves out our door I immediately start doing my work. Before, I procrastinate and check my favorite blogs and websites first but I have learned to stop that bad habit. I needed to get a headstart on my work while my son is still sleeping. By six in the morning I have to wake up my son and prepare him for school. He’s out the door by 7:30 and I quickly resume working.
He would be at school until 10:30 am and I try to do as much work as possible during that period. At some point I lose my momentum and concede that I have to relax so that’s when I browse my favorite websites. This routine works better than checking out the websites first early in the morning because once I start working I then get bored reading these websites and go back straight to work to finish my unfinished tasks.
By the time my little one gets home I’m still not finished with my work. I just take some time off to chat with him and ask him how his day went. Then I tell him since he has been good at school he can play, watch TV, or do anything he wants until 12 noon. I then resume back to working.
When lunch time is near I remind him to wind down because we’re about to eat. It’s important to give him these reminders in advance so when the time comes that he has to put away his toys we won’t have to deal with tantrums. When lunch is set I turn off the PC and he puts his toys away. We then eat our lunch.
After lunch, we talk a bit and relax before we start our studying routine. I help him with his assignments, review their lesson for the day, and also do some advance lessons.
By mid-afternoon we have our merienda and by 4pm we go out to meet his Daddy in the parking lot.
So that’s our simple schedule these days. I know it will be completely overhauled when the baby comes but for now this works well and I love how stress-free our days mostly are.
Self-esteem is an important element in maximizing the potential of children in school performance, social success and personal happiness. That is why my husband and I were really conscious that our son doesn’t suffer from this. Studies show that children who are criticized, bullied, or ignored during their childhood have lower self esteems than those who were praised, encouraged, and valued.
I’m glad that I’m always at home to give my son the support that he needs. Although I am sometimes busy working at home and can’t attend to him I explain to him what I am doing and why it is important. I don’t make it a habit though because then he’ll get an impression that my work is more important than him and I don’t want that.
During his first year at school, we encountered a crisis. For no apparent reason at all he would end up crying at school. My husband and I didn’t know what to do at first but good thing hubby taught our son how to pray. He found the strength that he needed through his prayers. Now, he doesn’t cry anymore at school and even found some friends. Looking back, I’m just so happy we got him over that stage.
There are still many more things we will encounter as our little Z grows up but I know that if my husband and I work together we would be successful in raising our son into a confident young man. The only way we can do that is if we consistently give him the time, attention, and the encouragement that he needs. I pray that we would be successful in this area.
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If you haven’t established a bedtime routine then perk your ears up. There are a number of ways you can do it and I hope you can learn from what I am about to tell you. I know we have different situations in life – some of us are working moms, others are stay-at-home moms, and maybe others are Dads – either single Dads raising their kids while working or just hands on Daddies who want to connect with their kids in a very special way just before bedtime. I am fortunate enough to share with you three different situations where I incorporated the bedtime routine. The first one was when I was a working mom, the second was when I became a stay-at-home mom, and the third was different because it was through my hubby’s eyes and how he would do the bedtime routine his own way.
A. WORKING MOM
When Z was very little I was a working mom. I was tired when I got home and had no energy to do anything. Still, I wanted to teach him something especially during his bedtime. Somehow I suck at reading stories and I get bored easily but one thing I love was singing nursery songs. I knew my son would love it too so I sang to him all the kiddie songs I knew. Z was only 1 or 2 years old then and he would listen quietly as I sang. I didn’t know if it had any effect on him all I knew was I just sang my heart out and hope for the best. Then I got ingenious and decided to use technology to my advantage. I could have played a CD for him before he sleeps but we didn’t have a CD player. So what did I do? I recorded my voice in my cellphone. Imagine my not so good singing voice being recorded and played every night without fail. My hubby – who is a good singer – used to chide me with my antics but I didn’t care since my son doesn’t know that his mommy’s voice suck and he continued to listen attentively even though it was just a recording. I was still there with him every night at bedtime and I still sing but when I get tired I turn on the recording to continue the singing for me. Did it have an impact on my little one? It sure did! We were visiting relatives one day and they were playing with Z. He was about two at that time and when they asked him to sing he started singing not one but all the songs I recorded. It was a really proud moment for me to know he was listening to his mommy even though at times it was just a recording of my voice. LOL!
B. STAY-AT-HOME MOM
Now, when Z was five I attended the Johnson’s Baby Bedtime Routine Seminar. There they taught us mommies the 3 -step bedtime routine already tested by the experts. The good thing about Johnson & Johnson is they have developed three products that we can use with each of the three steps. I was in a bit of dilemma though because my boy was already five and not a baby anymore. That’s why I decided to put the JOHNSON´S® Bedtime Routine to test its effectiveness on my five-year-old. Here is an excerpt of my post taken from my other blog on what I did to put the JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Routine to test:
Step 1. Give him a warm bath or punas using JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Bath.
I never give Z a bath at night even when he was a baby. He rarely sweats a lot so I was contented on giving him a once-a-day bath. I never even give him a punas at night. I’m one of those moms who thinks a little dirt here and there could actually be good for him. If something falls on the floor I say, “Of course dear, you can still eat it.”
Now that he is five, however, everything changed. He became three times more active! Just before the sun goes down you can find him outside playing with our neighbors. I let him play all he wants because he’s an only child and the interaction with other kids would be good for him. The downside is when he comes home he is so sweaty, his hands and feet are black, and even his knees are black from all the playing. He is so dirty that even I can’t take it anymore.
Z was not so keen on the idea of him taking a bath at night. He quickly retorted, “Naligo na ako, di ba?” (I already took a bath, right?” but I was prepared for a battle. Knowing how he loves taking a bath with warm water I quickly prepared a warm bath for him. That and I think his not-so-good feeling with the dirt and grime from too much playing outdoors made him relented. I told him we’re not going to use his usual soap anymore but the Johnson’s Baby Bedtime Bath . I know it’s designed for babies but there’s never a grime too tough to remove with gentle scrubbing. So with that Z came out of the bathroom feeling refreshed and squeaky clean. He must have loved it so much he never objected for a bath at night ever since.
Step 2. Give him a soothing massage using JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Lotion.
I know that massages are for babies. It’s also for my husband who comes home tired after a night of hard work. I wasn’t sure how it would benefit my five year old. Would he even keep still while I massage him – I didn’t know.
Not to give up that easily, I put step 2 into action. As soon as I dressed him up after taking a bath I told him I would massage him with his own lotion. He was interested and obliged. I massaged his chest, his back, his arms, and legs. He was attentive the whole time. I found that this was the perfect time to talk to him. So while I was giving him a soothing massage I also asked him questions about anything. If normally it’s hard for him to focus when I was asking him about certain things because he wants to play, play, and play during this time we can definitely engage in a meaningful conversation. Now I know that massages are perfect for my five year old. It’s definitely a perfect mother and son bonding moment.
Step 3. Time for some Quiet Time
After massaging him with lotion, we start our third step but before that I put Johnson’s Baby Bedtime Powder on him. Reading books was what we did for step three. I already shared to you Z’s favorite book, Goodnight Moon. That’s not the only book we read at night. Z likes this part of the bedtime routine so much that we read three books. It’s great that he likes it so much but I have to be honest here. No matter how I love him so reading the same books every night makes me bored. At one point I was afraid I was going to fall asleep first before he did so sometimes when I’m particularly tired I say to him, “Maybe we can just read one book tonight, Z.” Or sometimes I just breeze through the book so that we can finish faster.
Something happened though that is worth sharing. It was Monday and we were only at Day 3 of doing our bedtime routine. I had just finished reading the book, Go Dog Go, and since it was already the third one I breezed right through it and finished reading it out to him in half the time.
I was hoping he wouldn’t notice how I “cheated” him on the third book. After I finished reading , I closed the book shut and looked at him. I was hoping he wouldn’t let me repeat it. He was silent for a second or two and then he took the book from me. He opened it and the next thing he did really SURPRISED me that it took me a minute before I was able to grab the camera.
That’s my son “reading” the book from memory. I was so stunned that’s why I couldn’t get the camera fast enough. Hearing him read that book brought tears to my eyes. You might be wondering why I was emotional. It’s because if there’s one thing you still don’t know about Z it’s the fact he doesn’t want me to teach him to speak English. I already tried lots of times but every time I start he would make me stop. So this is the first time I’ve heard him trying to speak in English and also trying to read a book on his own. It made me realize that even though I didn’t put much thought on our reading time he was very much into and he was really listening attentively. That is the benefit the bedtime routine gave us. Aside from a perfect bonding time for the two of us I realized it was also the perfect opportunity to teach him something.
C. DADDY’S BEDTIME ROUTINE
For the Dads out there – and of course, Moms too – maybe my husband can teach you a thing or two about bedtime routines. He is a natural with kids and he showed me a totally different way to do it. Good thing I was able to capture part of it on video too. So here I present to you a different Bedtime Routine – Dad’s own way.
Step 1. My hubby grew up a prayerful child and that’s one of the things he wanted to impart to his son. They said to teach the child to pray as soon as he can speak and I’m glad through Daddy’s help Z has learned the importance of praying. So their bedtime routine always starts with a short and simple prayer.
Step 2. Did you know that studies have shown a sufficient increase in mathematical abilities, social skills, memory, literacy, and general intelligence in children who take music lessons? Yes, that’s already a proven fact but we don’t need to enroll our kids in expensive music classes. Why do we have to when we can do it in the comfort of our homes – just before they sleep. Don’t know how to do it? Then just watch how my hubby does it with our son. In this video, they’re singing the song, Open the Eyes of My Heart, by Michael Smith.
If you look closely at the video you can see how my son adores his Dad and how his Dad adores him. While singing they never take their eyes off each other and it’s obvious they both enjoy their simple activity. I guess this video is enough to convince you how powerful a bedtime routine can be and how great an impact it can have to you and your child’s relationship. It doesn’t have something that’s boring – it can be something that’s both fun and enjoyable for the parent and the child and my hubby showed the perfect way to do it.
Step 3. To wind down, hubby will open the Children’s Bible and read Z a short Bible story. Z’s Bible has lots of pictures and it personally picked by his Dad at the bookstore. He was really particular with the Bible that he bought (we went to three different bookstores before we found the perfect one) – he wanted something with lots and lots of colorful pictures. The pictures would keep Z interested, he said, and that’s his secret. It worked because Z would always listen attentively every time his Dad would read him a Bible story.
Step 4. Dad and Z would close their routine with another prayer. Z has his own special prayer asking Jesus to keep “scary man” out of his dreams. He would never fail to pray for this every night and I guess it’s his secret why he always sleep soundly at night.
I hope you learned a thing or two about the three bedtime routines I told you about. I am actually on the way and we will be having a new addition to our family in a few months. I’m so excited that now I have lots of experiences with the bedtime routine. With the help of technology, JOHNSON´S® Baby Bedtime Products, and of course, what my I learned from my husband I am confident our new baby will have a good night’s sleep.
Thank you everyone for taking the time to read my very long post. I just had to share with all the moms out there what I know. I’m sure you also have your own experiences. Please share your experiences at here and get a chance to win Johnson’s Baby Products.
We went back to the midwife that delivered Z last week. I was delighted to see her again and felt confident that I would be in good hands. My labor with Z was not easy because he was 9.6 lbs when he came out. I’m glad out of the hundreds of babies she delivered every year she still remembers me and Z even though it was already more than five years ago.
She cautioned me again about my diet so that my second baby will not get too big again. She said not to eat too much rice. Little does she know rice is not my weakness. I love junk foods and chocolates and I have no trouble limiting my rice intake.
Anyway, I’m a much wiser mom now thanks to may past experience. I’m really watching my diet and trying my best not to give in to those junk food and sweets I love. I’m determined to have a smooth delivery this time around.